How do you deal with other parents judging you?
At one point or another, we all experience a moment in our parenthood, where we can feel the eyes glaring, watching our every move as we try to tame a chaotic situation. It could be a temper tantrum at the checkout line, a rebellious teen acting out or a number of other stressful situations.
In these moments, it is important to remember the following:
- No parent is perfect
This is probably the hardest thing to remember in that moment, but we must realize that we have all said or done something that we later reflected on. Sometimes, emotions get in the way or what we think is best turns out a different result. We cannot control every outcome, so just remember that the parent with the scathing eyes has made mistakes too. They are no different than you and while it may look like otherwise on the outside, we all have our stories.
- Your child is not one and the same
While one parent may feel your parenting is too strict, lax, crazy or whatever other adjective you may need to insert here, it is important to remind yourself that you know your child best. Your child may respond to a certain manner, procedure, routine or lack thereof. Other parents are not within your household raising your child so stick with your instincts and go with whatever works for you and your child.
- It is best to be the bigger person
Parent drama can be stressful, especially when your children are friends with one another. While it is challenging to hold your head high, have the confidence to know you are trying your best and to not engage with someone exuding a negative attitude towards yourself. You are setting an example for your child and demonstrating one of life’s most important lessons: Treat others the way we would like to be treated.