Cyberbullying

Overview

Cyberbullying is often called “Online Harassment” and may take many forms: sending offensive private messages, sharing offensive gossips that may harm a person, stealing login details in order to publish offensive posts pretending to be the victim, pretending to be another person in order to contact the victim and make some harm, sharing intimate pictures of the victim in order to harm him/her.

 

Ask the expert...

1) Over 50% of teenagers reported to be cyberbullied

2) 80% reported a combination of bullying and cyberbullying

3) Only 20% reported to the police

4) Only 10% reported to their parents

5) 78% of adolescents that committed suicide due to cyberbullying were bullied at school too

6) In 32% of the teenagers that committed suicide due to cyberbullying a mood disorder was reported

 

Myths

People often believe cyberbullying is just another form of offline bullying. While they are two sides of the same coins (that is most of cyberbullied teens are also bullied in places like school, park, etc.), cyberbullying follows other patterns and act in different ways due to the intrinsic liquid nature of its playground: the Web. Its goals are different too. In fact the real goal is the psychological harm of the victim, so the real factor here is the observer.

 

The more observers, the more the cyberbullying act is successful.

 

Another difference from traditional bullying is the fluidity of the roles: the roles of the cyberbully, cybervictim, and observer may cycle and overlap.

 

Causes

Cyberbullying is a multi-factorial issue. As such, we have to consider many dimensions.

 

Social and Emotional causes: Social disease and uncertainty lead to fear and the anxiety, and they lead to anger. Cyberbullying among teens, as well as Bullying, is expression of the uneasiness.

 

Moral causes: we need abstraction to find a higher meaning from our Reality. Video games are reported to enhance our children’s lower cognitive skills and reduce their abstract skills. So our children grow up more and more pragmatic, and they lose the ability to find Values and Missions. When this happens, they take care more of the penal punishment rather than the moral values.

 

Relational and Personality causes: research found a correlation between Cyberbullying and Emotional disease of the victim, like Depression and other mood disorders.

 

Signs

1) Cyberbullied kids lose interest in devices like smartphones, PCs, tablets, and their online activities

2) They get nervous and anxious when they receive a notification

3) They lose interest in outdoor activities and meeting their friends outdoors

4) Depression, anxiety, anger, frustration after having used their device

5) They refuse to and avoid talking about their online activity

 

Effects

1) Loss of friends

2) Self reclusion

3) School drop out

4) Mood disorders (or increased mood disorders)

5) Loss of vitality and will to live

6) Depression (or increased depression)

7) Suicidal thoughts and actions

8) Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

 

Immediate Solutions

1) Learn the social channels of your kids and how they use them

2) Create trust and a good relationship

3) Talk about cyberbullying with your kids

4) Show interest and care about your kids online activity

5) If you find your kids have been cyberbullied, talk to them about reporting to the police

6) A parental control software installed on their device may help

7) If in doubt ALWAYS ask a professional!

 

Long-Term Solutions

1) Make your home a safe and good nest

2) Build a good environment around your kids

3) Help your kids to improve their self esteem

4) Educate your kids about privacy values

5) Educate your kids about online safety

6) Educate your kids about affectivity

7) Educate your kids about sharing their emotions with you

8) Take your kids’ online activity into serious consideration

 

Professional

1) Emotion training

2) Self esteem training

3) Psychotherapy

4) Outdoor activities

 

Scientific Research

Revenge Porn Statistics:

http://www.endrevengeporn.org/main_2013/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/RPStatistics.pdf

 

Digital Media and Society: Implications in a Hyperconnected Era:

http://reports.weforum.org/human-implications-of-digital-media-2016/

 

Teens, Technology and Friendships:

http://www.pewinternet.org/files/2015/08/Teens-and-Friendships-FINAL2.pdf

 

Toward to Measure Narcissistic Personality in Cyberspace:

http://www.scirp.org/journal/PaperInformation.aspx?PaperID=61750

 

If Facebook use causes envy, depression could follow:

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/02/150203123415.htm

 

More Info

CallerSmart created a guide on Cyberbullying and how to stop it. The guide has been put together to help parents and carers better understand the issues surrounding cyberbullying and how to help their children should they become a victim.

www.bullyingstatistics.org

www.cyberbullying.us

www.digitalparentingtips.com

www.ipredator.co

www.amandatoddlegacy.org

www.meganmeierfoundation.org

 

Author Biography

Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Educator, Dr Ivan Ferrero provides a range of Services whilst being a Parenting Advisor, Anti-Cyberbullying Ambassador, Cyber Advocate, and Scientific partner for many companies and non-profit Associations all around the World.

 

He writes about Teens, New Technologies and related issues on many Social Networks and platforms, and he currently works with Familoop as Cyberbullying Protection Expert.

 

You can contact him at [email protected] and follow him on Snapchat at ivan_psy, where he shares his Parenting Tips and his Educational Snaps.

image

LEAVE YOUR COMMENT