Self-esteem effects so much more than just a child’s personality. Self-esteem is one of those cyclical things. With great self-esteem tends to come confidence in their school work. With confidence in their work comes good grades. With good grades comes… high self-esteem! It is a magical thing. It can be a painful thing to watch if your little one is not as self-confident as they should be, and it can have some pretty negative consequences. So what can you do to boost their confidence?
Focus on Their Skills
Every child has some natural born skills. Focus on those, and emphasize how good they are at that particular thing. It is important to reinforce in your child the things that come naturally to them. Some kids are really artistic, while others like sports, and yet others are passionate about science. Find those skills and make sure your child knows how special you think that skill is. Every person is different, and it is one of the most exciting things to discover what your child is really skilled with. Remember, it is always easier to build up a child than it is to repair one.
Establish Realistic Goals
Meeting, and exceeding a certain set of goals can do wonders for self-esteem. Make sure that your child has some realistic goals to accomplish so that their confidence will get a boost on a regular basis. The important thing to remember is that these goals need to be realistic for the specific child. No one does well when the goal posts are way out of range. Repeatedly failing to reach goals can do a ton of damage to anyone’s self-esteem. Have discussions with your kid to find out what their goals are. It could be making the next belt in their karate class, training the household pet to do a certain trick, getting an A on their history report, etc. Perhaps you can work on some realistic goals together to ensure that the goals are age appropriate. Once your child is meeting their goals, you’ll begin to notice their confidence soar.
Don’t Let Your Kid Know You Are Disappointed
On occasion you might find yourself wishing your child had some attributes that you had imagined they would long before they were born. It is human nature to daydream ahead. Perhaps you had imagined a football star, and your child can’t stand to so much as play catch in the back yard. Do not discourage them or let them think that you are disappointed with them. Children need to know that they are unconditionally loved by their parents. They are unique and special and loved for who they are. It cannot be stressed enough how important it is to let a child be who they are, and to show them continued love and support for all of the great things that make them unique.