//I am the mother of a bully. I NEED HELP.

I am the mother of a bully. I NEED HELP.

I don’t know how we got to this place. My 15 year old son has been loved and loved. He tries to be the class clown at the expense of others, and doesn’t see that he hurts others’  feelings. He doesn’t realize that HE IS NOT FUNNY. He has wicked mean streaks. He is impulsive. He has little regard for what others have done for him, or what we still continue to do for him. He has moments of sweetness and that gives me hope,  but lately he has gotten worse with picking on his older sister and now, me. He is rotten a lot of the time. I didn’t spank (maybe that’s the problem?) and my husband is a gentle giant- won’t raise his voice, he doesn’t get angry. I have often felt that if my husband had been firmer with my son earlier in his life, maybe he wouldn’t be such a brat. But what is that worth, now? If there was a window, we missed it.

I cry a lot. I am embarrassed by my son and his impulsive, thoughtless behavior.  I promise you, we are not assholes! We have tried to be  empathetic, and kindhearted,  and serve and love and befriend people, to take care of the underdog, and we have encouraged my son to be part of all of that. We talk about what we can try next ALL THE TIME.

Where do I look for actual therapeutic empathy training? Is there such a thing? Has anyone else been in this position?

All advice is needed and welcomed.

By | 2017-08-27T21:08:06+00:00 June 21st, 2017|Parenting|0 Comments

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