Stop laziness in its tracks

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Stop laziness in its tracks

[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”2/3″][vc_column_text]“How would you rank yourself, on a scale of 1-10, If 1 is ‘lazy’ and 10 is ‘hardworking’?”

I’ve asked this question at every single student evaluation I’ve held over the last six years. To this day, I can’t recall a student who has answered dishonestly. It’s a bit of a shocking question that catches them off-guard.  Sometimes there are nervous glances from child to parent and to me, followed by stifled giggles. Then finally, with some hesitation, the student gives me a number. Some are specific, with decimals! Others give me a range of two numbers.

Many students evaluate themselves more critically than their parents do; they admit to getting away with things their parents don’t even notice!  The vast majority is honest and accurate with their answers, which I always admire and praise them for doing.

Here are two honest reasons students give us when we ask, “Why?”

Avoiding pain

Many students who are labeled “lazy” have simply given up the uphill battle. I don’t blame them; they’re making a rational choice. They’ve figured out that they get an ‘F’ on their math test whether they study or not. Would you go through the pain and frustration of homework and studying, and put in all your effort just to earn an ‘F’ ? I wouldn’t.

Getting away with it

Do you ever rush to your child’s school to deliver their homework? Do you ever stay up all night studying with them before a big test because they procrastinated? Do you organize their backpack every night? Parents who do are actually rewarding their children for being lazy.  The truth is, students feel guilty for being lazy, but since they can always count on you, they never really have to count on themselves.

Two ways to stop laziness in its tracks

Give them support

School can be overwhelming and boring at times. And that’s OK to admit. If you notice your child starting to withdraw, try not to lecture them. Instead, ask them if they feel overwhelmed or confused in class. Let your child know that while it’s perfectly normal and common to feel overwhelmed and to avoid work, their problems will only get worse if they ignore them. You can show support by meeting with your child’s teachers, helping them develop an after school routine, signing them up for after-school tutoring, or using online tools developed specifically for students.

Raise your expectations

Don’t do something for your child that they should be able to do for themselves. Instead, discuss your expectations and help them figure out how to prioritize their tasks to reach those expectations.  Then encourage your child with positive phrases that promote specific behaviors like, “You’ve done a really great job keeping your backpack neat this week, and you haven’t lost any homework! I’m proud of you.”  If you notice your child slipping back into lazy habits, help keep them accountable to your expectations by acknowledging their progress, discussing setbacks, and being their cheerleader.

Leading versus nagging

Nagging may get your child to do something once or twice, or perhaps, if you’re really good at it, it will work consistently. But it’s no fun for either of you and causes lots of stress and drama. The solutions above help you to be a leader who helps your child develop discipline, independence, and self-reliance. When you can patiently help your child develop the skills and resilience to be successful, they will feel and see the benefits of their hard work and choose to do the right thing without being told.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/3″][vc_single_image image=”14329″ img_size=”medium”][vc_column_text]

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