It’s only natural for children to become curious about sex as they grow up, it may simply start off with them asking “Where do babies come from?” or “How did mom get pregnant?”. These questions can be tough to answer if you don’t know how much you should tell your children at specific ages.
A good strategy to discussing sex with your children is to start young, around the time your children first start asking questions don’t give them complex answers, and instead ask them what they might have heard before and correct them when they’re wrong on something or when they don’t really understand a term properly. Don’t use large confusing words and try to keep the explanations as brief as possible as when your child is older you will be able to clarify things you only touched upon before. At this point stick with explaining things like words for their private parts, how they were born, and so on.
As your children grow up you should remember to make sure that you continue to talk to them, making sure that they have accurate information instead of schoolyard rumors and what they may be able to find online or on the television. Around this time, it is good to start going more in depth with your explanations, making sure that they’re taught about puberty, the changes their bodies go through, and then expanding more on the way babies are made. This will allow them to become more comfortable with their bodies and with the “awkward” or “uncomfortable” subject of discussion that not talking with them early can create later on in life.
Once your children make it into their teens you may want to expand more, teaching them about sexual intercourse, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), the risks of unprotected sex, and the types of birth control available in the world to ensure that they go out knowing how to have safer sex should they decide to try for themselves right away. Make sure that they know that having unprotected sex can result in unwanted pregnancy, STDs, and other unintended consequences depending on their age at the time. At this time your children may also be taking a “Sex ed” class in school depending on where the school is, you should also see what they are being taught in the class, making sure that they are paying attention to the important things and that they aren’t getting what they are taught mixed up with what they may here around friends elsewhere.
If you continue to talk with them openly about sex throughout their life they may be more likely to come to you with any concerns regarding to sexual issues and worries, meaning that their health is more secure as you as a parent will most likely be able to find out what’s going on in their life easier than other parents would be able to if they don’t talk openly and freely, allowing their kids to ask questions and learning from their experiences in these talks before going out and having sex for the first time.