It can be a hard thing to come to; When it comes to your children, you will do anything to make sure they are okay and making the right choices for themselves at every moment. Of course, no one would blame you for having that behavior and feeling toward your child or children, but there is a line that must be drawn when it comes to how those behaviors and feelings are acted out. If you haven’t caught on quite yet, we are talking about the ever hovering “helicopter” parent. Haven’t heard of this term? In short, it describes a parent that is always watching and trying to make decisions for the child, even coming to the point where the child has no way to decide any feeling or choice for their own person. If this behavior isn’t realized and changed, it can become a toxic relationship for the whole family, and can lead to even worse circumstances.
When it comes to raising your child, and as I’ve learned raising my own two so far, it is so important to keep a healthy balance between helping them when they need it and letting them explore in their own. Although my children are still quite small (only 3 years old and 1-year-old, to be exact), I make sure to let them venture on their own, and find out different things on their own as well. Being able to let them make choices, even if it is picking out their outfit for the day or deciding which juice they want to drink, will help them to grow and develop into independent people that they need to become as they age. If you continue to do everything for them, they will never get the chance to prove how independent and big they can really be.
It can be so easy, especially when they are still little, to get wrapped up in the idea of always keeping them safe from harm and making sure they make smart decisions. I’m not here to tell you that you can’t help them make some decisions and watch out for them, but it is crucial to remember that there is a line between being that helpful parent and being the “helicopter” parent. It may seem like a hard task to take on, but making the conscious effort will make all the difference with your relationship with your child/children in the end.